Way back when, when we got engaged and suddenly the reality of planning a wedding was It, I sat with Holy Spirit and felt I needed to pray about the creative aspects of the wedding. If He has been the centre of our Love Story, surely He would have some good ideas to consider… stunningly spiritual, He told me to go to my ‘secret’ Pinterest board aptly named “One Day…” – yes, I am that girl who planned her wedding and had a board and pinned pretty ideas. I am unashamed. After looking through the images, I felt Holy Spirit tell me to start deleting the ones that felt ‘not quite right for us’.
My board suddenly seemed very empty. Looking at what was left, I kept hearing the word ‘Garden’ repeating over and over again. I asked Holy Spirit to remind me of a passage of Scripture about a Garden (you’d think a certain Genesis Garden would have come to mind??), and I was prompted to read Song of Songs 4: 12 – 15
A garden locked is my sister, my bride,
a spring locked, a fountain sealed.
13 Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates
with all choicest fruits,
henna with nard,
14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
with all trees of frankincense,
myrrh and aloes,
with all choice spices—
15 a garden fountain, a well of living water,
and flowing streams from Lebanon.
Yeah, I also thought that was a bit weird at first too. Until He told me to research the fruits/ spices… did you know most of them are names of colours with prophetic meanings?? That is just the way Holy Spirit talks to me; I love it!
- Pomegranates (light red): Beauty & fruitfulness; worship & intimacy; promise: the Lord loves you irrespective of your failings
- Henna (bright red): Joy & thankfulness; Grace – the covering of sin (Jesus’ blood)
- Nard (pink-purple): First Love (Jesus); Genuine; Costly – pure, precious and valuable
- Saffron (bright yellow – orange): Presence of God; His glory & victory; Passion & enthusiasm – life to the full
- Calamus: Uprightness; being right in God’s eyes
- Cinnamon (brown): Fragrant smell of Restoration; Holy anointing of the heart
- Myrrh (dark green): Expectancy & fasting (connotations with Esther!); Flowing in your spiritual gifts
- Aloes: Intimacy with God; sweet smell to the Lord; place where you meet with God
And in that moment I not only had a theme for the wedding, but a rather interesting colour scheme too… and I also realised I had no idea how to put that all together. But I knew someone who did… and it seemed just the most perfect, obvious, Holy Spirit-inspired choice. I have been friends with Sylvia for 15 years and we have walked a path of Faith and Encouragement together; I am so grateful for this friendship! And she also just happens to not only love Jesus and listen to Holy Spirit too, but is something of a wedding decor/ flower genius. Seriously. Originally I had felt I needed to ask Sylvie to create my bouquet prophetically – asking Holy Spirit what it should look like. And I knew my budget was less than a third of what she’s used to working with – but she was available and came on board.
Her work speaks for itself – I loved it! I only wish I could share the smells with you too; on entering the venue, I was immediately transported into a beautiful garden. Up until the moment of stepping into the venue for pre-ceremony photos, I had no idea what had been planned. For a bride who had planned her fictitious wedding several times over, it was the most liberating approach to my actual wedding – trusting the Creativity and decisions to the two I trusted most: Sylvie and Holy Spirit.
One of her ideas (which both Garth and I immediately LOVED) was the concept of a Covenant Carpet – a mat created for us to stand upon when we said our vows, which would then be placed in our home as a constant reminder of the promises we had made to eachother. Ours is in the kitchen – we literally stand upon it when washing dishes, making tea and preparing dinner – and have stood facing eachother several times, remembering the words we declared to the other. Our carpet design was photographed in our (then, my!) home and its filled with personal symbols that we love, as well as references to our Love Story (the dancing and Song of Songs scripture).
It was only after the wedding, Garth and I were talking about the Scripture and the Garden and I admitted how bride-focussed it seemed to be: the entire scripture is about HER. I can’t remember how we made the connection (probably Holy Spirit again), but Garth’s name literally means ‘Garden’.
I love how creative Holy Spirit is and how much He loves amazing me with layers of symbolism.